Social Media and Identity: Who Do You Believe You Are?

Social Media Identity: Who Do You Believe You Are?

I recently came across the video of an influencer who, through a tearful recording shared that she had just lost her Instagram account where she had over 113,000 followers. In the video, she shares, “I’m nothing without my following.” She goes on to say that she has no skills, no job qualifications, and even worse, that she’s worthless; “I am worthless. I bring nothing to the table. Zero.”

Not only is this heartbreaking, but it’s concerning. Have we grown so attached to who we are on social media, that the thought of losing our following, or not having the “engagement” or validation we hope for, could ultimately “destroy us?”  Have we become addicted to our online identity?

According to new research, it’s been said that “Americans check their phone on average once every 12 minutes – burying their heads in their phones 80 times a day.” It’s also been found that “the average person struggles to go little more than 10 minutes without checking their phone.”

I think we might be addicted to our phones and social media. But even more so, I think we might be addicted to our social media identity. We crave the affirmations, the acknowledgments, the acceptance. We long for the attention. We want to belong, and if we’re honest, social media provides us with an identity, an identity that we think we want or need, but in reality, is far from who we really are or who we really want to be.
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6 Social Media Mistakes that are Hurting Your Influence

Influential people are watching your platforms. Your social media posts are either opening doors for you or closing them shut.

According to a 2018 CareerBuilder Survey, “70 percent of employers use social networking sites to research job candidates…and of those that do social research, 57 percent have found content that caused them not to hire candidates.”

Your social footprint matters and even though you may not have employers screening your social media platforms at this time (that you know of), you do have influencers “checking you out” to see if you are someone that they would like to partner with. Your posts on social media can open doors of opportunity for you or close them shut. Opportunities including the Director who wants to hire you to speak at their event, the CEO who wants you to come in and share your expertise with their organization, the business owner who wants you to guest post on their blog or interview you for their podcast, or how about the literary agent that’s looking to partner with you for your first or 10th book.

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Did God just close that door or should you persevere?

Did God just close that door or should you persevere?

At different points in my life, I’ve had experiences where I started questioning what God was doing (or not doing for that matter). Honestly, I didn’t know if He was closing the door or if He was waiting to see if I would push through and persevere.

As I walked through these different experiences, I couldn’t help but to always think about the movie, “Joy.” Joy is a movie about a very patient and dedicated, divorced mother who is not only struggling to provide for her family, but is living amongst a very dysfunctional family. The movie takes you on a journey as she invents a new kind of mop and the MANY obstacles she faces as she markets it to American moms.  Continue reading

5 Small Things You Can Start Doing NOW To Live Life Successfully

5 Small Things You Can Start Doing NOW To Live Life Successfully

Deep down inside all of us, is this yearning to live life successfully, to make our lives count. We want to not only make a difference, but we also want to live lives that are fruitful and filled with purpose.

But somewhere along the way, life gets hectic. And when life gets hectic, we tend to focus on just getting through the day, rather than taking stock of what changes need to be made in order to live life successfully, right now.

Today I want to encourage you to see the 5 small things that you can start doing now so that you can be successful in life.
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When you feel inadequate for the calling in front of you

Confidence. It’s something most of us struggle with. And I’ll be the first to admit that at different times in my life, my confidence has been shaken to the core; mostly by the words spoken to me by others.

  • Words that caused me to question myself.
  • Words that someone thought were funny but were hurtful.
  • Words that spoke defeat instead of victory.
  • Words meant to guilt me into something.
  • Words meant to quiet me instead of empowering me.

Words from the childhood playground to the company meeting room. And with each and every word, I’ve felt inadequate. Less than. Unqualified.  Continue reading

Capturing God Opportunities

When I first entered the world of Social Media in January of 2012, I was meeting with a business coach. And I vividly remember sharing with her how I REALLY wanted to serve churches; I wanted to help churches with their online presence.

And when I shared this with her, she immediately said, “Don’t do it. You’ll never make money.” And because I was so new to this “harvest,” I took her words to heart and moved forward in other ways.

Well, fast forward to 2017 and you will see that more and more churches today are not only seeking outside help with their online profiles, but they are also hiring full-time Communication/Online Specialists. Churches today are realizing the importance of having a great presence online. Not only are churches hiring people for these positions, but there are now multiple conferences for church leaders around this topic, Facebook groups, coaching groups and self-study courses.

As I’ve thought over this the past few days, I couldn’t help but ask myself, “Did I miss an opportunity to lead in this specific niche?”  Continue reading

Why “Keeping Your Options Open” is a Bad Idea

Maybe you can relate. You’re stuck and you have no idea as to what you’re doing or where you’re going. You pray and ask God to give you clear direction. And after some time, you begin sensing that God is speaking. You feel like you’ve heard from Him and are understanding where it is that He’s leading. But, after a few weeks or months, when things are not moving as fast as you thought they would, you start doubting; you start worrying. And deep down inside, you start questioning whether or not you really did hear from God. So, you decide to “keep your options open.” You start looking at other things you can do, places you can go, etc. And before you know it, you’re stuck in the same exact place. You never moved forward and really, you just spent the last year of your life moving backwards. Sigh.

This has been me during different seasons of my life. If I’m honest with you, there were times where I felt like I had to have that “cushion,” that security blanket just in case something didn’t work out. But really all it did was create more chaos, more worry in my life.  Continue reading

God will find you…

Maybe you can relate to one or all of the statements below:

  • I always feel like there is something more, but feeling the need to be still and wait.
  • I continually have this compulsion that there is much more God wants me to do.
  • I’m wondering if God has or wants more.
  • I feel like God is leading me on a journey somewhere, I’m just not sure right now.

For many of us, we have this stirring deep within us, a restlessness that seems to never go away. We feel like there is more or should be more to this life than what is out there waiting for us, but we just can’t quite pinpoint it. And if we’re honest with ourselves, we feel this deep “loss” within us. We start questioning whether or not we are in “God’s will.” Are we doing what we were created to do? Are we missing out on something that God has for us?   Continue reading

Tips To Build & Grow Your Facebook Group

This week, I want to answer two specific questions that center around creating and running a successful Facebook group; questions that I’m asked quite a bit: 

“Is it appropriate to share similar content in both places (Facebook Group and Facebook Page)?”

“What do you do when you’ve first started a group to make it look active and appealing before you have any members?”

Let’s start off with the first question that centers on content in a Facebook group.  Continue reading

Facebook Page or Group: Which One Do I Need For My Church

There’s been a LOT of chatter lately regarding Facebook Groups and Facebook pages. And in case you haven’t noticed, there has been a HUGE increase in ministry leaders who are creating groups in order to engage more with their audiences on a regular basis. Why? Because the organic reach on Facebook pages has dramatically decreased, and like you, leaders are getting tired of posting on a regular basis and not seeing any kind of engagement on their posts.

One of the most common questions I get is, “Does my church really need a Facebook page or can I just stick with having a group?”  Continue reading